hello and help!! I am the sole caregiver for my 67 year old father, he had a massive stroke in 2008 that left him partially parlyzed and with progressive dementia. My brother and sister refuse to contribute to his care, if they take him for family outings they don't help get him ready and they bring him back filthy (usually bm and urine soaked)They never call to ask about him or his needs or even just to talk. anyway... they feel I have "manipulated" my way into this situation where I "get" to live rent free. I am here 24x7 and have not had a break. I have asked but they do not help. ANYWAY... My father has been becoming increasingly vicious in his verbal attacks on me, yesterday he searched the house for his two guns and couldn't find them. I found him on a stool searching and asked what he was looking for, he said my guns... I said they are gone, he went into a tizzy ranting and yelling that I had taken everything away from him and I was the bad seed and everyone had always told him I was but he had tried and tried to be nice to me and I made it impossible, (I was always told I was his favorite...) I told him my brother took one and the other was gone. he yelled to get the F@#% away and he'd call me by name if he ever wanted to see me again. so I'm hurt, beyond hurt. I am fed up with my family and him. I have been in this situation for so long I no longer know what is right and wrong... am I wrong to be this upset by bro and sis and their insults and negligence? am I wrong to have taken his guns? (he would wake up and insist there were people attacking the house and alligators in the hallway I feared for my life and his that he would be confused and shoot me or himself) I have resisted putting him in a facility because I don't want strangers caring for the man who was always there for me growing up. I thought that is what was right. I am not a martyr, just a daughter who loves him. I am lost and at the end of my rope. some outside assistance/input would be very appreciated. Do I go ahead and seek a facility? is it just a phase? is this to be expected? WHY does he attack ME and yet not say one word to them about their neglect?