My mom passed two years ago from cancer and shortly afterwards, my 81 year old dad got into two car accidents, totaling both cars (thankfully no one was hurt). He decided not to drive anymore. I was supposed to drive him around temporarily until he could find another solution, but 14 mos later I'm still driving him everywhere. He has had countless doctor's visits (he seems to love going to different doctors, and each appointment creates 3 more), all of which have confirmed he's in pretty good health for an 81 year old. I work as a self-employed nutrition coach and have put my work on hold this last year while I helped him. I have to start working again, financially, and have asked my dad to hire a driver. He can afford to hire help. No matter how I explain it, he doesn't get why I have to work or focus on my own life (I'm a single mom to a 13 year old). He feels I've "cut him out of my life completely." I feel so hurt -- I've done so much for him! I have a brother who lives 90 mins away and he has come up to help my dad only twice since all this happened. It seems so unfair to be turned into the bad guy by my dad after all I've done. Should I just accept that he will never be able to put himself in my shoes? How can I shed the guilt trip he's giving me?