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I am also taking care of my mom for the last 5 years, even though me and my sister (who lives 2 Km away from her) have both POA. She decided not to look into her matters, so I am by myself (luckily my husband and my son are helping me) with all the things/trips to the Doctors, etc. The good thing is that she lives in a retired building across from the nursing home, so she gets help from the social workers. I want to share with you guys, and ask for your opinion what is recently happening. As I mentioned earlier, my sister doesn't want to get involved in my mom's life for the past 5 years; however since Nov 2017 she took $10,000 from my mom's account, in the presence of my mom. I have to admit I am so stupid, since I'd left the bank card with my mom, when this first happened (Nov 2017). So, today she decided to go to my mom and take her to the bank and withdraw another $5,000. I am just desperate and don't know what to do, please advise. I do not have any relationship with my sister/family, also for the past 5 years, how can I with these type of people... Thanks so much! Elena

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You have been given good advice. If mom ever needs to apply for Medicaid (nursing home care) she will be denied based on the "gifting" of the money to your sister. I doubt your sister will care for your mom during the penalty period - so it will fall on you. Call the police - this is theft.
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If an attorney helped with the POA they can make recommendations. Good advice on reporting this to the authorities. You are not stupid Elena, as your mom is doing what she wants to do. That is if she is in her right mind. Why is she giving away money in her golden years to a younger person, I assume capable of working and making their own living.. I voiced my opinions to my parents for years over the continuous handouts to my siblings. They would inform me of these situations and it made me furious at these “entitled” siblings. Yet my parents would give until they had very little left. This left them strapped with bills. Yet the moochers still mooching. Act fast before even more is gone. I hope it’s not too late and the authorities can help you.
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so you share POA? Perhaps you can have hers revoked since she is not looking into her best interests. Try putting a phony card in moms wallet for their next outing! That is so infuriating. Let the social workers at her home know what is going on- Maybe you can call the bank and have them put some sort of hold on the account. Ask for the manager and find out if anything can be done
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Annnnd take your mom's bank card (if you can). I had to take Dad's cards away bc his dementia left him less than responsible, and he was a target for anyone that wanted to take them from him. I replaced them with some old cards that weren't any good. If she doesn't have dementia, maybe you can ask her if you can put them in your safe or keep them at your home for her.
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Call APS and report her theft.
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Try to pull some of her strings. If she does not return mom's money you are going to report it to the police. You will need to do this for 2 reasons if sis does not respond. 1) taxes. 2 ) you can seek conservatorship by showing the police reports to the court.. DO take mom to the bank and open a new account to transfer any remaining money. If sis can do this So can you.
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