My dad lives with us. He is 86 and has prostate cancer and non hogdkins lymphoma. With that said I'm so tired of him bellowing my name. He can get up if he wanted but other than to go to the bathroom won't. My family helps when they can or when he lets them. He likes to remind me I get paid to care for him. Today he did get up and let his dog out then sat at the table and said he needed help getting up. My daughter offered to help, I was upstairs and he said no get your mom. He can do a lot more than he does but he chooses not to. I know start making him do for himself but he will just lay in bed and yell my name. It's to the point I walk on eggshells around his room so that sometimes he dosnt know I'm home. Some days I just hide out in my room just to watch a movie and have a break. I make his meals then tell him I have errands to run. It's sad that it's come to this but what else can I do. I'm looking into AL but that will take time. He took care of my step mom when she was sick and used to complain to me about her being so needy maybe I should remind him how he felt. He finally put her in AL she passed a few years ago. Anyway I guess I'm just tired. Thanks for letting me vent.