My daughter is trying to get a conversation started with with her father (81), my ex-husband) about his desires for future care, POA, etc. He is resistant to share anything with her, often changing the topic. This is his personality in general, though, so shouldn't be a surprise I guess. Adding to the problem is the fact thatt he lives in New York, and she is here in Florida, so all talks are via telephone not in person. My daughter is very responsible, and it's very frustrating for her to not be able to plan for the future. She is stepping up to the plate even though she already is a wife, and mother to an 11 year old daughter of her own.