I have had my mother in my home and been her sole caregiver for 3 years (another 5 years prior to that - part time). Her care is just getting too much for me alone - physically, emotionally, spiritually. I have sisters but they don't help - you know the drill.
I finally got some funds released from her estate so I can bring in some help (one of my absentee sisters has POA) and I have hired a GREAT LPN to help me out.
I also have a sitter (that doesn't do hands on) which I have had 1-2 times per week for 2 years - 3 hours at a time.
Mom is HORRIBLE with both of them. She gets so angry and refuses to cooperate with her nurse who is supposed to get her cleaned up (sponge baths). She swears at them at the top of her lungs and I see her arm twitching I know we are not far away from her hitting.
What can I do to help her accept caregivers in my home so I don't have to place her? Continuing alone 24/7/365 is just not an option for me anymore. I am getting so used up and burnt out and my body just physically can not handle it any more.
I have been unable to get her out of the house for drs appointments for 8 months (mobility combined with cognitive) and was just approved for in home Dr. care (thank God!). I am hoping when they finally get to us they can do some med adjustments, but I have no idea how much longer we have to wait and I am desparate to change this behavior.