Its terribly difficult sometimes, is there a way to keep her from getting anxious, cold and embarrassed? Mom has oxygen on in the shower, she gets too breathless without it. the water just drips right down that onto the floor. I wash her hair and back because its too hard for her to lift her arms and she gets breathless. We have a shower chair and a handheld. shower head. i try to do it fast so she doesn't get too cold. I feel like there has to be a more efficient way to help someone shower? I keep thinking it shouldn't be this hard and unpleasant for her.