I am caring for my father who has Alzheimer's (Age 86). He is somewhere between the middle and late stage and has been living with us for almost 13 years. About five months ago, my wife and I decided it was time to place him in a home. However, we did not choose the right home. Before we placed him, he looked pretty good as far as his weight but within about three months of being in that home, he had lost a ton of weight. I was mortified so we pulled him out. I am now working on getting him to gain weight but am having trouble.
I am keeping track of his daily caloric intake (1500) but have found it difficult to reach. He can only eat so much at one time and the portions need to be small or else he might not want to eat it. I tried feeding him smaller meals frequently but that was not working out since the times I would need to feed him would not be good (really agitated or tired and would refuse to eat). He does go to a day care Mon-Fri from about 10 - 3 which is really helpful. But even those days can be a challenge to get the calories.
I'm at a crossroads because I am trying to achieve a certain calorie amount in order for him to gain weight. At the same time, I don't want to just be giving him stuff just because it'll help me reach the daily calorie goal (cookies, brownies). I've been giving him pancakes/muffins made with vegetable puree since they're easy to eat.
I don't know if what I am doing is good. I really want him to gain weight but maybe I should let it go and just focus on nutrition. If anyone has any advice, please let me know.