My mother, age 73, who has always been a strong, independent woman yet also a loving, caring and philanthropic woman has recently become hateful, mean, disrespectful, messy, dirty, manipulative, argumentative and deceitful in oh so many ways. This is painful, as I know her mind is leaving her, but the attacks she makes on me and the harsh, controlling ways she treats my granddaughter who I also have custody of is becomeing detrimental to the balance I thought we had in our 4 generation home. She has no responsibilities here, can sleep all day or do whatever she pleases, has no requirement to pay any household bills nor clean as I do the daily cleaning and have a housekeepper that comes in bi-weekly to do the cleaning I can't keep up with. I work full time in a demanding job, and spend what time I can with her, albeit little due to my responsibilities that fall on me as the woman of the house, but I really am shamefully sometimes grateful that I have no extra time as all of a sudden I have become her #1 enemy whom she threatens in silly monetary ways (ie; "I'll cut you out of my will", when she made me the sole beneficiary of her will a year ago and signed medical and financial Power of Attorneys, so she uses this as some type of control...truth be told, I have houses, cars a decent paying job and need nothing from her. She was just doing that to keep my estranged sister from "getting anything when she dies") and worse yet, emotionally attacks in hateful, hurtful semantics. I am tiring of this. It is becoming far too taxing on me emotionally and I too am becoming detached as, while she is my mother, I do not deserve this horrible treatment from a person that I have gone to the ends of the earth to help. My uncle passed away 3 years ago almost, her only sibling, which made her sole heir to his estate, which was fairly large and quite helpful to her as she was quickly running out of money from my grandmothers estate and her inheritance from my grandmothers death. Since his passing, she has had responsibilities to close his estate, none of which she has fulfilled. I did everything I could to assist, compiled tax paperwork, handled the sale of his Longhorn herd, cleaned up his ranch house and acreage, and communicated with the attorneys of record to move forward with settling the will, however, she has written hot checks to the IRS, not paid the many property taxes which are past due, etc, and I fear she will soon loose everything and then will not have the funds necessary to live in a nice assisted living home versus a state run facility. I do not have the money to afford to pay $2000 a month for a retirement/assisted living home for her and am really lost as to what to do. I so could use some help and while I know this scenario is jumbled as there are so many aspects and issues, a general set of guidelines or suggestions would be truly and sincerely appreciated.