I take care of my husband 24/7, except he goes to day care three days a week for only six hours and the rest of the time I have to be with him as they are afraid he will start to wander. Is it time for a facility as he is seeing things, afraid of the dark, thinks I am having a party in the living room and I am in bed at the time? He has been diagnosed with dementia and walks with a walker, cannot take his own meds, incontinent. Therefore laundry is a daily chore. He will not shower for me, says he just took a shower, and I can smell him from the other bedroom. All he wants to do is sleep, and therefore, does not get his meds on time and does not receive enough fluids and food intake. What do I do? I only have a son and daughter-in-law and they both own their own businesses and her mother is also in an Assisted Living facility and her dad needs care for appointments, etc., so I cannot expect too much help from them and their daughter just started college.