Well, after 2+ years of living with my bro and sis in law, who have been so helpful and loving and caring, dad has reached the point that they can no longer handle him. He has multiple medical problems, stage 4 liver failure, type 2 diabetes, COPD and Conjestive Heart Failure and has recently (three weeks) had a pace maker put in. This last week he was admitted to the hospital all swollen up with fluid and they put in a cath, which the Dr at the hospital seems to think he's going to need to wear the rest of his life (he's 87). He did have a bad UTI and after a day in the hospital on antibiotics he was once again in his right mind and feeling good. That was the day before yesterday. Today he came home and my brother called me tonight telling me he's totally out of it, hallucinating, yelling at my bro and sis, not keeping his Oxygen on, pulling on his cath... Long story short, they say that this has been coming on for weeks... that my brother can't help as he's working all the time and my 90 pound sis in law is having trouble managing him and is having health problems herself from the stress and her own issues. The Dr. at the hospital said he thought it was time we seriously consider a nursing home for him where he can get around the clock care. After a family pow wow tonight it was agreed that it's time, and that the best facility for this is near where I live. So Saturday my brother is going to try to bring my dad to me (about a 7 hour drive) if there is room for him at the local rehab/nursing home facility here where I live. He will be a private pay patient and I'm hoping we can get him into a private room...if not right away, then soon. I just know this is going to break his heart if he's in his right mind at the time. Any suggestions anyone?