My husband has Alzheimer's and is at the stage where he is in depends, but won't let me change them, won't let me change the bedding, says he is not hungry and won't sit up to drink. If he won't do these things for me I can't imagine he will do it for a stranger? I have introduced a caregiver in the home, but he is very uncooperative. Do you think a nursing home might be better for him? He doesn't have any bed sores, but at this rate, it is only a matter of time. I don't want to be accused of neglect, but what should I do? I have talked to him till I am blue in the face. He seems content, except when I try and clean him. He will be 90 in June, and has probably had Alzheimer's for about 10 years, definite signs for about 7.