This may be a hard question, but how do I determine what level of care my mom needs?

I am getting very close to finding mom a place to live that is not in my house. Between dementia and incontinence, it is getting very difficult for me. But it just does not seem like any level is really the right fit currently. When she gets a little bit worse, yes, but not today.

IL, no way.

AL, doubtful. She has mild maybe getting close to moderate dementia. She needs medical help, prompts for many/most things, bladder/incontinence issues, etc.

SNF, seems too with it for this?

MC, kind of, but it seems like most in MC are of the more severe dementia type and that would not be a good fit while she is not in that category yet.

It may seem like I'm making excuses, but it just doesn't seem like anything fits.

She is 79 and continues to decline. She has a hard time remembering what to do. Can't retain info that she's told and therefore asks the same questions about what/when/who. She used to read a lot but is now having a hard time following books. Used to play a lot of cards but can't remember the rules and needs nearly constant prompts to play.

I know a facility will be happy to help me figure this out, but I don't know if I'm ready to sit down with someone because I feel the pressure will be on to make it actually happen. I don't want to be pushed into it. Just trying to mentally prepare for the rather inevitable.