He was in memory care because I was unable to care for him at home due to paranoia episodes as he was becoming very agitated.
After 8 days they were unable to handle him, took too much time to monitor him. He was sent to a psychiatric hospital to try to find meds that would make him manageable. When he was in the psychiatric hospital they would not allow me to see him. The last time I saw him was when he was being transferred from Memory care to a hospital, he was heavily sedated , did not know what was going on. He was in hospital for 7 days in ICU, with Covid, bacterial pneumonia and sepsis, intubated the entire time, he was never awake. Then he died.
My reason for posting this is, he would have died no matter what.
Don't put your loved one in a place where they won't let you be with them.
If I could do it over, I would try to keep him in the hospital where I could be with him. The psychiatric hospital was the wrong place to put him. They called me on the 23rd to tell me he was having trouble breathing, a very sad way for the end of his life. He died on the 29th. The only positive note in this is he was never in any pain at all. I never got to say I love you and goodbye.
Carole
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Just know that at the time you made your decision you felt that you were doing what was best.
I am very sorry that you were not able to be with your husband.
Wishing you peace as you grieve for your husband.
May happy memories eventually become more prominent has time goes on .
(((((Hugs))))))