Hello, I think my dad has dementia but he refuses to go to the doctors. Will the doctors let me make an appointment on his behalf? I don't want him to know that I have called because he will refuse to go and possibly get aggressive with my mum (verbally) but I feel I have to do something as he’s getting worse. Is it feasible to ask the doctors to send him an appointment letter as if it’s just a routine check up?
Medicare does ask that we have a yearly check up that they cover. Its not mandated but thats what some of us have had to tell LOs to get them to see their doctor. So if in the US, maybe you can try that strategy.
1. What makes you believe dad is developing dementia.
2. I would begin a list of questionable things you observe. I would send them to the doctor and tell him that you suspect dementia, and you cannot talk dad into an appointment.
As you said, as doc if it is feasible (question is for him/her, not us) to send an appointment card for annual physical.
Give the doc the list you compiled of what leads you to worry.
Now if you want to manage things for Dad it is time to get that POA done BEFORE dad is too wonky to do it. Because otherwise you will not be able to act for him with doctors, bankers or anyone else in order to protect him.
I wish you the best. You can only do so much. After you do that you just await "the call" which will come, and undoubtedly lead to hospitalization where you can get the Social Workers on board.
Good luck.