Hello, I am caretaking for my mother that is 70 (in July). I have been since my father died in 2007. Anyway, when I say that I caretake it basically means preparing meals, taking her to the doctor and doing laundry. Everything else my mother could do on her own. She could bathe herself, dress herself, walk by herself (with a walker).
She has diabetes, heart problems, has had multiple back surgeries, survivor breast cancer, shoulder issues and I'm probably forgetting something else!
Anyway, in February she started coughing really bad and started spitting up a lot of blood. I took her to the hospital and she was in there a few days but got released. They did tests on her and told us to follow up with her doctor and request medical records and give them to the doctor. Anyway, a lot of time passes between having to make dr appointments, more blood tests from her primary dr. and they finally figured out that she has a lung infection - MRSA. The doctor gave her an antibiotic finally at the end of March-ish maybe April! She got better after finishing the antibiotic. It was like things were back to the way they were. Then she started coughing again. We went back to the dr.... more blood work, x-rays, blah blah. Everything came back okay... but she was still coughing.
Then she fell. Bumped her head. ER. CT scan and everything came back normal. Then she fell again and hit her head. This is throughout April.
May comes and she's declining. She can barely walk. Her arms and legs are weak. We make a dr's appointment but I can't even get her in the car (she's too heavy for me to pick up), I finally get her in the car. We get at the dr's office and I can't get her out. The DR says take her to the ER.
The ER does tests. Everything is okay according to tests. But she can barely walk. I can't even get her inside the house because we have stairs to go up. I had to get a neighbor to help me get her in the house. The ER suggested seeing the DR, but I can't get her there because of the stairs and I can't get her in the car.
She fell last night. Ambulance ER again. Tests again. Everything comes back okay. She's not okay. Her blood pressure is high and the ER doctors act as if it doesn't matter. They set up nursing and physical therapy for her, but kept giving me a pitiful look that meant "this is what happens when you get old and have health problems and there's nothing we can do" kind of look. They were talking about nursing homes. WHAT!
But she was FINE just a few months ago. Yes, she walked with a walker, but pretty much never fell (for a few years she hadn't fallen) then all of a sudden all this stuff happens. She got around great.
I just don't understand why they're not trying to see what's wrong. Something is obviously wrong. Her blood pressure used to run GREAT before. It was always in the 120/60 range. Even though she suffers from high blood pressure, it ran good. She took her medicine, I make sure she eats healthy... now her blood pressure is always 150/80... and UP. At the hospital it was 199/80. When I check it lately it's always 176/80 or something. I don't understand why they're ignoring it!
I don't know what to do. Please if anyone can give me ANY advice on how to convince the doctors that something is wrong and to help her. Something has to be wrong, but it's like if all tests come back okay, they won't admit her to see what's wrong.