Husband has dementia for over 5 yrs. and I am total caregiver. He absolutely refuses in house help and would be a great problem for anyone doing it. He is totally forgetful and knows he is, is aware most of the time but "sees" people or things now and then, and just sits in the chair and sleeps much of the day. I am exhausted from doing everything myself. When I have to shop or go to doctor, I leave him alone and he gets his lunch from refrigerator - and eats everything else he can find. He is diabetic, anxious, and does not like contact with other people he has known for years. The thought of putting him in a nursing home makes ME anxious -- he would be devastated and feel so alone without me. I guess I just need someone to understand. Can't afford daycare and there is only one in our town anyway, which is not up-to-par.