Fivepeppers, if they are being jerks, why not donate ALL of your assets to a worthy cause. Then your family can be educated by you that rude behavior has consequences.
PS: I never said I thought it was a silly issue. I gave you some things to try to resolve and commented that multiple emails daily would be to much, considering the information you provided, which wasn't much, I was just trying to help. Sorry, I won't offer any more of my personal advice.
Could you use a zoom function online? Or proper magnifying glass to see the emojis? To *read* it?
If you are writing text, occasionally get a quick reply but do get longer/word reply later, then the relationship seems fairly even.
However if emojis or one word replies is all you ever get - I would be wondering if it was getting one-sided instead.
Maybe some recipients would prefer talking by phone or in person better? Have a more natural flow to a conversation.
I must admit I do use them (probably too much). They sometimes just sum up better, hey that's good news, great to hear that or sorry to hear.
I get little interesting daily news from relatives. One sends but also asks too - two way. Another seldom ask about me or mine so it has become quite the one-way road. I don't find this forfilling to be honest. My DH says I am too sensitive. That updates are sent & that's it. Replies are not even required. (I know his relatives don't even get one!)
I am reluctant to put this.. please don't take offence.. but I had a very straight talking child say to me "you have overestimated my interest in that topic". Just a thought..
Are you sending messages that require a response? Then an emoji response is inappropriate.
Or are you sending jokes, memes, cartoons, etc? Those don't require a response in my opinion. But because my father wants to know his messages are being read, I send an emoji of some sort back to him. It is my way of saying, "I read it and laughed."
But honestly, many people probably don't have time for the joke / funny story / inspirational message emails, so if that is what you are sending, be grateful they at least acknowledged receiving them.
What does this have to do with caregiving??? If this is your only problem, you need to be thanking the Lord above, as most people on here have actual problems.
i have to say, depending on the context, it’s extremely rude of some people to do that. for example, you write an important, heart-felt message, and you get a 1-word reply (or even worse, just an emoji; even worse, just a “thumbs up” emoji).
my advice: stop writing to these silly/mean people. they don’t care. they can’t be bothered to write a message, can’t be bothered to show they care. can’t be bothered to make you feel better. they do less than the minimal effort.
what goes around comes around. at some point they’ll write an important message to someone they wish would reply more thoughtfully.
Oh, people...puh-leeze. I am old enough to remember my MIL being incensed at getting someone's answering machine greeting and being asked to leave a message. That dag-nab new fangled thing! Now, voicemail is an integral part of our communications, and we pretty much rely on it.
Some people are Turtle Typers or Hunt-and-Peckers so they give minimal responses. Some communications don't really warrant more than a thumbs up or smiley face emoji (like your latest pic of your pet or the dessert you made).
OP, have you tried telling your LOs that you can't see/don't understand the emojis? Maybe a fun exchange would be for you to ask them to teach you what the most common ones mean. I haven't seen one that truly represents "Feh!" or "Bah, humbug!" so maybe you can draw one, take a pic and send it back to them.
I remember being a sad little girl when party lines went away. What was I going to do at grandma's house in the evenings?
I do think that so much technology has cost the world social graces and that will never get better.
I tend to send emojis when the conversation is done or someone sent me something that there really is no response needed, just a thumbs up to say sounds good or a smiley face to say that me smile. Really an acknowledgment of their communication only.
I'd stop emailing them. If you are taking your time to email people who aren't responding to you except to shoot off an emoji or two, then they are telling you, without using words, that they are not interested in getting emails from you. If they were, then they'd respond to you with words so there would be a two way interaction between you. That's my opinion on the matter, as a person who emails with others and gets emails with words in response.
It's the way to let you know they saw your email with a minimal effort of reaction to the content. It's rude and dismissive in my opinion, but you know, kids these days...
It's not just kids, MJ - no one bombards me with more of those stupid emojis than my skeeballing-towards-seventy SIL. Every message, be it e-mail or text, she includes the little buggers...and since she's a "last-word Charlie" she uses them to make sure she gets the "last message" (instead of the "last word") in a conversation.
I just ignore them. It's really not worth the energy to get worked up about them.
I would enlarge the print on my computer so I can see.
I would tell them that you can't understand what it all means and can they please take a minute to put things in words.
However, if you send out lots of emails daily, it's probably to much and people don't want to interact that way multiple times daily but, at leadt they have the courtesy to acknowledge you.
These are siblings and I have their phone numbers for next of kin purposes but I am not supposed to call. Grimace and annoyed faces too. I only write once in 2 or three weeks, ( in response to their vacation photo or selfees ) Like 6 selfees to me at once is a bit much. I do not use smart phone as I have retina issues wet AMD. If interacting once or twice a month is too much, I am not rational ............Courtesy Hummh!
If this was a silly foolish issue, why did I get 20 responses. They will become less rude when the will is read and money is divided up. Happy 4th
what kinds of emails are you sending? if you are forwarding funny jokes or other things that you haven't written yourself, most people, if they respond at all, will respond with a simple emoji or just an LOL. most people don't have much of a response to those kinds of forwarded emails. but if you're writing an email yourself it would warrant a more detailed response.
Is this the younger generation or people of your own age? Could you simply ask them for their thoughts, rather than the little faces and let them know that you don't understand the little faces? It is actually a bit of laziness to my mind, but I guess I just am aging. I don't get a lot of that stuff.
They are a quick and kind of fun way to comment on your email, really. There's possibly thousands upon thousands of emojis to use. I tend to stick with the common ones, but wow, my kids send whole VIDEOS to make a point.
And yes, some don't make much sense! (personally, for me, the 'poop emoji' is just bad taste. And there's a ton of iterations of those.
Respond with words, if you're better at that. At least you have communication! weird as it may seem to you.
PS: I never said I thought it was a silly issue. I gave you some things to try to resolve and commented that multiple emails daily would be to much, considering the information you provided, which wasn't much, I was just trying to help. Sorry, I won't offer any more of my personal advice.
Best of luck!
If you are writing text, occasionally get a quick reply but do get longer/word reply later, then the relationship seems fairly even.
However if emojis or one word replies is all you ever get - I would be wondering if it was getting one-sided instead.
Maybe some recipients would prefer talking by phone or in person better? Have a more natural flow to a conversation.
I must admit I do use them (probably too much). They sometimes just sum up better, hey that's good news, great to hear that or sorry to hear.
I get little interesting daily news from relatives. One sends but also asks too - two way. Another seldom ask about me or mine so it has become quite the one-way road. I don't find this forfilling to be honest. My DH says I am too sensitive. That updates are sent & that's it. Replies are not even required. (I know his relatives don't even get one!)
I am reluctant to put this.. please don't take offence.. but I had a very straight talking child say to me "you have overestimated my interest in that topic". Just a thought..
Are you sending messages that require a response? Then an emoji response is inappropriate.
Or are you sending jokes, memes, cartoons, etc? Those don't require a response in my opinion. But because my father wants to know his messages are being read, I send an emoji of some sort back to him. It is my way of saying, "I read it and laughed."
But honestly, many people probably don't have time for the joke / funny story / inspirational message emails, so if that is what you are sending, be grateful they at least acknowledged receiving them.
my advice: stop writing to these silly/mean people. they don’t care. they can’t be bothered to write a message, can’t be bothered to show they care. can’t be bothered to make you feel better. they do less than the minimal effort.
what goes around comes around. at some point they’ll write an important message to someone they wish would reply more thoughtfully.
Some people are Turtle Typers or Hunt-and-Peckers so they give minimal responses. Some communications don't really warrant more than a thumbs up or smiley face emoji (like your latest pic of your pet or the dessert you made).
OP, have you tried telling your LOs that you can't see/don't understand the emojis? Maybe a fun exchange would be for you to ask them to teach you what the most common ones mean. I haven't seen one that truly represents "Feh!" or "Bah, humbug!" so maybe you can draw one, take a pic and send it back to them.
I do think that so much technology has cost the world social graces and that will never get better.
I tend to send emojis when the conversation is done or someone sent me something that there really is no response needed, just a thumbs up to say sounds good or a smiley face to say that me smile. Really an acknowledgment of their communication only.
I just ignore them. It's really not worth the energy to get worked up about them.
I would tell them that you can't understand what it all means and can they please take a minute to put things in words.
However, if you send out lots of emails daily, it's probably to much and people don't want to interact that way multiple times daily but, at leadt they have the courtesy to acknowledge you.
If this was a silly foolish issue, why did I get 20 responses. They will become less rude when the will is read and money is divided up. Happy 4th
Could you simply ask them for their thoughts, rather than the little faces and let them know that you don't understand the little faces?
It is actually a bit of laziness to my mind, but I guess I just am aging. I don't get a lot of that stuff.
And yeah, some of the emojis don't show up properly across different platforms (android to iPhone)
And yes, some don't make much sense! (personally, for me, the 'poop emoji' is just bad taste. And there's a ton of iterations of those.
Respond with words, if you're better at that. At least you have communication! weird as it may seem to you.