We hear much about elder abuse. What can we do when the abuser is abusing the caregiver (also an older person), emotionally, verbally? The abuser has a long history of verbal (never physical) abuse of family members. The abuser is now in assisted living but continues to accuse visiting family members of ingratitude, of forcing the person to move, just interested in the person's money. The one thing that has a shred of truth is that the family strongly encouraged and arranged for (and are paying for) this person to move. But at the time the person herself agreed that she could no longer live alone. None of us could take on this person as a housemate because of her bad temper. We are all exhausted and don't want to abandon this family member. The person is on meds which don't seem to help. She is very depressed. Any suggestions?