For the past 32 days, my father has been in the hospital and then a rehab. He was experiencing leg weakness and having difficulty walking. He has lived alone for 40 years (a true bachelor) and has a bit of an eccentric personality. He’s a loner (maybe not by choice) but truth be told - for the past 5 years he hasn’t really lived.
The rehab (where he has been for the past 3 weeks) has been good. He still has trouble walking and is a little confused as to what the heck he’s doing there (mostly because he’s soooooo old school and doesn’t understand what rehab even is!)
I was told yesterday that his discharge date has been set for 1/22. After I caught my breath, I began to panic. What do I do now? The rehab strongly suggest assisted living. This has truly set my father back so returning to his home (now) is not an option. He has been receiving a lot of assistance in the rehab and he’s sort of gotten used to it. In fact, when I tried to explain “the next phase of this journey” he asked why can’t I just stay here?
I've looked at 3 assisted living facilities by me. One was too big (they offer independent living too so it’s literally like it’s own community), one is brand new and doesn’t open until March, one was small and cramped (not nearly as nice as the rehab he has gotten so used to) and the last one (that is next door to the rehab) is ok - but I just don’t know.
My dad is not in a position to make this decision alone. He barely wants to talk about it (although he doesn’t ask to go home). I’m an only child and I’ve never been the type to make others decisions for them. I’ve been loyal and doting and for the past 32 days I’ve been at the hospital and rehab 24/7. I just don’t know how to do THIS next step. I’m Definately looking at places that only offer a respite stay (so at least it’s not final) but still it’s got me crazed. Help!