Per the hospital social worker, I anticipate a Virginia state attorney will contact me within 4-6 weeks to initiate the process. I'm her next of kin (oldest child/son) and the sole immediate family member who has maintained contact with her in the past six years. I have one sister, but unfortunately they haven't communicated in six years. Although my mother is suffering from late stage cancer, congestive heart failure, memory issues and in my opinion, some undiagnosed personality disorders, she refuses to sign advanced directives, POAs and cancels ALL appointments for medical treatment. My mother believes she can handle her affairs; however, two separate hospitals declared her "unable to make medical decisions" and have reached out to me for consent, as next of kin, prior to performing medical procedures. My mother is a self-proclaimed "private person." Recently, she has been requesting complete privacy and a social worker told me she now has a "do not announce" code associated with her hospital visits. For example, if anyone were to call the current hospital where she has been admitted, the operator would say something like: "no sir, she is not in our system" or "I don't have her in our directory", even though she is really there. Two hospitals have informed me she needs 24/7 care or live with a family. Unfortunately, I don't have the resources for her to live with me (I live 15 minutes away). However, I've reached out to her siblings and one of my aunts volunteered to let my mother live with her. My aunt is 10+ years younger than my mother, retired, financially secure, has a loving heart, and has cared for two other siblings with late stage cancer. My aunt has also volunteered to be the guardian and asked me to research the process. My mother has made it clear to hospital staff she doesn't want to move and/or live with her sister and told staff she doesn't want me to be her POA (or advanced directive). My mom doesn't have enough resources for 24/7 care and in my opinion her home is unsafe (she won't let ANYONE in her house, for 10+ years). My mom signed herself out of a hospital last Thursday, without medical consent, then called an ambulance last Friday and is currently hospitalized (confirmed through reliable 3rd party sources). So bottom line: my mom is not well, it is unsafe for her to live by herself, she is not making good decisions, I expect her current hospital to call me soon and tell me she is "unable to make medical decisions" and I'll be able to talk to her doctors and case workers. After not knowing where she was since last Friday, I'm thankful to know today she is currently in a safe environment (hospital). I'm okay with not being the guardian, but prefer a family member to assume this position ANY DAY, as opposed to the state of Virginia. Any recommendations? Thank you in advance.