My husband is in late stages of MS now, with swallowing becoming an issue. He aspirates which has landed him in the ICU on high flow nasal oxygen. Blood oxygen level cannot be maintained using normal oxygen tank. Dips down below 85. Lungs are a factor with dimished Doctors are still trying to wean him off of the high flow oxygen equipment. He's been there for 6 days. The doctors have not come right out to say anything about end of life, but I got the feeling they were skirting the issue. This morning, Palliative Care doc said this type of equipment is basically life support. If he cannot come off of this oxygen equipment, he would remain on it for the rest of his life. Of course, even though we should have had this conversation before, my husband and I (mainly me as he wouldn't have brought it up in a million years) have to talk about what he wants if this is moving toward end of life. So sad for us to deal with. He really doesn't want to be on life support, but to have it put in front of you takes the wind out of you. I have to be the calm one. I just don't know how to approach it. I've called the minister. Any suggestions on how to ease into this conversation? I'm sure I'll do okay, but thought I'd pick up some comforting ways to go through this with him--even after he accepts it.