The doctor at the memory care facility said Mom should be on Paxil, but I disagree. Am I wrong?
My 85-year-old mother has been in memory care for 5 months. She is negative and has for many, many years complained at the drop of a hat -- if there's a listening ear, she's going to complain. Before moving her to MC she did not have a primary care physician -- my mother rarely saw a doctor in her life. The MC doc visits once a month. Last week the doctor called me and said that my mother should be on a low-dose of Paxil for her depression. She said that in her monthly visit with my mother the latter complained of feeling "worthless" and "wanting to die." I told the doctor that my mother loves to complain and I didn't want her on Paxil. The doc got upset with me, called me "Honey" a couple of times, and said I was withholding treatment for my mother. I am sure that was registered in her file on my mother. BTW: the nurse manager at the facility agreed with me, but privately. I really like this facility for my mother, but a doctor who comes around once a month and bases giving my mother a drug on a 10-minute conversation, I feel is problematic. Am I wrong? Any advise?