So if you've been keeping up with my other thread about Dad's bowels, I don't know what to do.
The AL staff and Hospice Nurse have been very helpful, but it's not like you can make someone NOT try to go to the bathroom. Dad is STUCK on thinking he needs to go when he really doesn't, so he's continuing to push. He says something is happening, but when I've checked there's nothing there (sorry to be so graphic).
This has now turned into a urinary incontinence issue, as the pushing has somehow affected his bladder. Today he is literally screaming in pain because of the hemorrhoids which he is exacerbating by his constant toilet visits.
His brain is broken. There's no reasoning with him to stay out of the bathroom and just ride it out. He says he's afraid he's going to soil himself which hasn't happened because HE DOESN'T HAVE TO GO.
I'm at my wits end, and I'm getting impatient. I'll say "Dad, I'm on my way over. Let's wait until I get there to go to the bathroom together..." He says OK, but guess where I find him less than 10 minutes later. He doesn't understand that he's hurting himself, and it's starting to irritate me that there's nothing I can do to end this fixation because he feels pressure.
To add insult to injury, he refuses to wear incontinence padding so he's literally peeing... everywhere and soiling LOTS of clothes.
In my head I'm like... can he REALLY have ANOTHER health issue?!?! Poor guy... but I'm sick of the bowel thing.
Hospice may be against it, but I'm tempted to take him to the hospital to see if they can do a procedure to clear his bowels... I'm still paying for the stroke bill and I really can't take time off work... for hemorrhoids.