I have a question but first a big thank you to all you wonderful people who have responded with caring and thoughtful answers andsuggestions to my questions over the past several years.
My wife of 55 years passed away on Dec. 6th of last year after a 10 year struggle with Alzheimer's Disease. I was able to keep her with me until she passed away in our home and I was by her side and holding her hand until the very end. She was on hospice the last month of her life and they were very caring and helpful. I will miss her forever and am in grief counseling with a weekly Zoom meeting of a dozen or more people, with a weekly social worker visit provided by the hospice and a chaplain also provided by the hospice organization for the next full year. They are so important to me at this time.
But now my question. My wife passed away on Dec. 6th 2021. On Christmas Eve my daughter (40 years old with a 5 year old daughter and twin 17 month old boys) came down with Covid. On Sunday she went into the hospital and on Tuesday she was declared over with the Covid but they said they found something else going on in her body. After a week of tests they said she had Breast cancer and after more tests they said it was (and I don't understand this) Estrogen positive, Progesterone positive HER 2 negative stage 4 metastatic breast cancer.
I don't understand this information but her husband seems to be able to understand what it means. From what I can gather it does not seem to have a positive outcome.
I am 83 and want to live as long as possible so that I can help her and the family in anyway that I can but I am not sure of what to do. I want to be strong for them and live as long as possible but reality gets in the way. I live in a small ADU house in the back of their home so I get to take care of the boys on a daily basis and I see them daily. My daughter is very careful of me since I am the only family member who has not come down with Covid and at my age it may be a problem.
My question is: has anyone experienced this type of cancer? What are the daily symptoms and how can I help? The outcome does not look good. My wife used to say almost daily that she "was so afraid, so scared". I knew what she meant but after awhile I am not sure she knew what she meant. Now my daughter says the same things and I know what she means especially when she looks at her daughter and the twins.
Taking care of my wife was something that I could do and I think I did it well but I don't know how to help my daughter. I can take care of the boys on a regular basis and I am glad to do this. My granddaughter is in kindergarten so I don't have as much interaction with her. With my wife I was hands-on but not so with my daughter. I want to be there for her and her family but how?
Has anyone confronted a situation like this and how did you handle it? I need help and this website has helped me so much in the past and I hope it will be there for me now.
And what is this type of cancer? I knew all about Alzheimer's but I am lost when it comes to breast cancer.
Thank you all. I can't tell you enough how much I appreciated how you helped my wife and I cope with Alzheimer's and I hope you can help me to cope with my daughter's breast cancer and to be there for my daughter and her family.