I'm 6/7 months into this caregiving for my mom & FULLTIME since Covid-19. I can't even imagine going into years doing this especially (tele)working 10 hour days, but can't imagine putting my mom into a NH. I have to work 4.5 more years and I know her dementia/Alz will get worse & not better. I can say I am definitely grateful that she can still toilet herself & feed herself. I got her a, then puppy, last year, but she just adds to my burden because of my mom's condition but she is a good companion for mom but again, more responsibility for me. I try to look on the positive side of things especially when reading most articles in this forum but it doesn't totally alleviate the stress of caring for mom, home, dog & my own personal stuff. I feel I'm neglecting caring & seeing my grandkids because of exhaustion caring for mom & the fear of one of them bringing C-19 into the home. My work week starts at 6:30 & doesn't end until 10-10:30. I have a camera in her room & constantly find myself checking on her. There are 15 steps to go upstairs & I have feet issues, plantar fasciitis & heel spurs, so the pain from that just adds to my stress. Would like for mom to come down but then she is constantly getting into or doing things that causes me to have to stop what I'm doing to tend to her and or the dog.
So respite care would be GREAT, but reality is, how to get it & get it safely!