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67 yr old children "hate their Mother" and are "done" with taking care of her. She is 94, lives in her own home, is almost completely blind, she doesn't drive, can't shop for herself, or pay bills.

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Grandson, please qualify... are you saying your Grandmother is 67 years old? If yes, my gosh, she is younger than I am. So sad if that is the case.

I firmly believe that a grown children should never dig into their wallet to pay for the care of an elder. You wrote she lives in her own home, which to me says she has equity in that house or condo.... and if she cannot afford it or if it is too much to maintain, time to sell and downsize into something more manageable.

Sometimes our elders don't have a vote when it comes to their safety. My parents [in their 90's] refuse to move from their 3 story single home, and because of that all I do for them is get their groceries and drive them to appointments.... nothing more since THEY made the choice to remain in that house. I am not trying to be mean, as I am a senior citizen myself and I am dealing with my own age decline issues.
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Grandson, it sounds like there's a story here. Have the "children " been caring for grandma? Are the "done" because she's difficult and they are seniors themselves? Is someone trying to tell you that YOU'RE responsible? In my opinion, family has an obligation to help arrange care for an elder, not provide it themselves. The elder's own resources should be used to accomplish this.

If you've got a tale to tell, there are a lot of good listeners here.
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What a mistake that would be to have laws that require children of a senior to personally provide care. Financial responsibility so a decent place for others to provide care is also out of line. What are retirement age children to do about preparing for their own retirement?

Grandson is someone trying to pressure you into providing hands on care and you do not want to? If, so, good for you, stick to your guns! What a travesty it would be for our legal system to force providing care for our elderly. Not everyone has the temperment to be able to, in fact not many do. Imagine the danger our elderly would possibly be in with forced caregivers!
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According to Wikipedia states with filial responsibility laws include:

Alaska, Arkansas, California, Connecticut, Delaware, Georgia, Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Dakota, Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, West Virginia.
In addition, the Commonwealth of Puerto Rico also has filial responsibility laws.
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