the state put my mom in a Alzheimer's home in ak. my parents have been married almost 53 years, and dad wants to take care of mom till the day she dies, which i dont blame dad, we got dad into a beautiful senior retirement community,which does have assisted living,(we have mom home with dad and where we want her). but they aren't in that part yet, they are on list, so far so good, the place there in has 2 full time nurses on staff, and 8 workers on staff,i am poa so is my brother and my wife.we hired 4 pca's for 24 hour 7 days a week care, the only problem is my dad has moderate dementia. dad thinks the meds mom is on is causing her to be like she is, she cries and moans somedays and others she is fine, (IE ALZHEIMER'S) but for now thats the extent of it. the dr. has mom on haldol, which when she wasnt on it she was very very loud cussing telling us we stole money from her and more, we are trying t get dad to understand its not just the meds, but with his dametia, hes dosnt remember what we tell him and he hides everything. moms health is going quick and were afraid when mom passes that dad wont remember and keep going in her room thinking she gone somewhere, so how do i go about telling dad and reasurring him it alzheimers.. and what do we do when mom passes so dad dosnt die to far behind her, one other thing dad is a vet and had an appointment to get diagnosed and maybe meds for damentia but refuses to go. i believe dad has lots of life in him, how do we convince dad to go to dementia appointment? and when the time comes explain to him that mom is gone and in a better place.