I visited my mother today, taking tulips to cheer her up. She immediately started on (again) about buying a house, getting a housekeeper and "getting out of here" (NH). She thinks our previous cleaning lady will give up her home, well paid job and sideline business to live with her and care for her 24/7 just for "rent free". She can't sit up or stand. I told her when she can walk properly we'll talk about it but, until then, it's like talking about Christmas and it's only March. She continued to carry on and I threatened to leave so she calmed down and we had a nice visit. Thank goodness I changed my phone number so I don't have this continual ranting every day!
I also got bashed over the head about how I "rushed" to sell her house and put her in a NH. Excuse me? I gave up my home and career ... my whole life ... to care for you for four hellish years, trapped in a freezing basement with no income.
She's been in the NH since November 2012. Shortly after she broke a hip - her faulty entirely. Didn't want to drink her protein shake and tried to hide it on top of a wardrobe, turned and fell. I asked the docs in the hospital if she'd ever walk again and they said "Well, we have seen miracles" which means no and she's been unable to walk ever since.. She also had another stroke a few months ago. There are a lot of activities and a library at the NH but she stays in her room all the time, plotting, planning and complaining about the care she receives, which is stellar.
Yep, each time I visit it's mind blowing and I won't visit again for at least a week. Tonight I'll have a glass or two of wine, curl up in front of tv with my beloved dogs and cats and get to bed early. Tomorrow is another day.
I plan to go with the "when you can walk" tactic. Of course, with that, she may constantly be trying, falling and carted off to hospital and that will be the end of her.
So what to do? Maybe the visiting doctor can straighten her out but probably not. I tell her "when you can walk well" and she's going to be getting out of bed/wheelchair constantly trying to achieve it, fall and possibly next time it will be fatal. Too bad. I've had a lifetime of her narcissistic, mean, manipulative cr*p and she's been dead to me forever.