Should I tell my parents that I had cancer and am in remission?
My parents are in their 90's and still living independently, all I need to do right now is just drive them where ever they need to be.
Back four years ago I had cancer, major surgery, yada, yada, yada, and I never told my parents because Dad was still recovering from a heart attack. I was afraid such news would be traumatic to them since I am their only child and they are still "helicopter parents", even though I am pushing 70 years old. Believe me, the helicopting can be very stressful, even I getting a common cold sends them into a panic.
Thank goodness I wasn't needed as their "driver" until a couple of years after my surgery when they both stopped driving. I was the master of excuses for not driving on some days due to exhaustion and side effects of the meds... usually said I had to work late at the office.
Should I tell them, but just shove this information under the rug for their own peace of mind?
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It's kind of tough when you can't share your problems with your folks (for me at least) but when I've tried, my mom just has a very flat affect (she doesn't have much of a response) and it's more painful than not telling her.