After 3 months of attempted rehab, we've been told that my 85-y/o mother-in-law is not progressing with therapy and has actually lost ground since her admittance. It's time for her to move to the NH side of the rehab center.
She has multiple health problems, the worst of which being that she is completely incontinent and bed- or wheelchair-bound. She has some AL and dementia but is mostly lucid, though her short term memory is bad.
Hubby is heartsick at having to tell her. She spends our entire daily visit talking, asking, begging to go home and is under the impression that she is getting better, which she isn't, and that it's only a matter of a few weeks before her doc will 'send her home'.
How did you tell your loved one about needing 24/7 care? And that they will not be going back home? I know it will be all hubby's 'fault', even though everyone is in agreement that she is in the best possible place for her needs.
Thanks in advance for sharing your stories. Lis.