My father had a drug overdose when I was a child and he is now in a wheelchair in a nursing home. Recently he is constantly asking me to take him places. I don't mind this every once in a while but I don't have time to be his caregiver. I am only 22 and I have a young family of my own. The nursing home will take him where he needs to go but he tells me that they won't, so I will feel obligated to take him. I love my father and don't want to be rude and hurt his feelings. Help!
Where is your Mom? Are there other siblings? Are there agencies in your county that may be able to offer volunteers to take your dad out? Check online, or speak with your dad's NH as they will have that info.
You need to have an honest conversation with your father. Perhaps there are feelings of resentment for his drug overdose and how that impacted you growing up?
Boundaries are imperative with caregiving. Simply set them and stick to them with your father. Bless you.
Setting a few days a month for Dad is a really good idea. I want to spend time with him and I love him, I just cannot put my family on hold to chauffeur him back and forth to the doctor and Wal-Mart. Thank you so much!!