My 90-year-old mother has Alzheimer's, but has lived on her own. I am the only child and I live 5 minutes away. I spend a lot of time taking care of things for her and making sure she is safe, but occasionally when I have to go out of town, she stays at a very nice assisted living facility with some nursing care. She has been there about 4 times and has made some friends.
During this recent stay, she began wandering. They placed her on 30 minute watch and an ankle monitor. She took the monitor off twice.
My mom has been going downhill for last year. She struggles with her memory, but does a good job covering it up. I have met with her doctor about this issue and he wasn't very helpful. The nursing staff said that it wasn't safe for her to return home. I have spoken to close professional friends of hers and people at our local Alzheimer's Society and have agonized over this decision. But, I have made the decision it is not stay for her to return home.
The issue is my mom is expecting to return home. When I call, she asks continuously when will I return home from my trip, though I have been back for over a week. She associates me with her retuning home. I know she will be furious that she won't be going home, but I don't know how to break the news without upsetting her a great deal. I also don't know how I can visit her without causing her to become very angry.
Any suggestion to deal with this situation?