I have posted on here many times now about the situation with my Mother-in-law. She has dementia (moderate) and is a type 2 diabetic who requires insulin injections 4 times daily. She has no short term memory at all and therefore she firmly believes that she is perfectly fine and completely independent. She is surprised, confused and angered (many times each day) when my husband, myself or the home health aide show up at her door to check her sugar and assist her in taking her insulin. She really has no idea that she is ill even though we have to tell her everyday (a few times). Her dementia was worsened to include delusions. Yesterday she swore that she spoke with two of her doctors, and both said she was cleared to drive (although she could not name them). We know now that we must take the next step to insure her safety. We have finally found an acceptable (all though not perfect) Assisted Living facility that can provide her the care she needs and still allow her to remain social with people close to her age (she is 66). We have POA. We just have no idea how to tell her or how to get her there. What if she refuses? Anytime we have mentioned it before she becomes very angry. Keep in mind that anything we say will be lost within 20-30 minutes, so even if we convince her of the danger she is in she will forget before we get there. Do we just have to take her there under some ruse? Do we need to medicate her? Can we legaly make her go? I really need some solid advice from someone who has been through this.