I have always tried to honor my mother, and I haven't always succeeded, but I think overall, I've been a decent daughter! But now my Mom is very ill, and she gets very very confused a lot of the times due to her illness. So I have to tell her things like, "No, Mom, don't eat that, that's a tissue!" Or, "Mom, drink the water" (to swallow a pill). The other day she actually wanted to drive, and while it was a day when she was doing amazingly well for her condition, she still should not drive at all. I told her she couldn't drive, and she got very upset with me, and said, "I can tell you one thing, you will NOT be the boss of me!" She and I don't usually have words like that, and I started to cry. I realized I sounded very bossy and I came across sounding like a stern parent to my own mother, and I hated that. I realize I can try to use a softer tone, but I still have to "boss" her in certain ways, and I am having a hard time with it.
She doesn't understand that she is confused, so she can't figure out why I'm telling her what to do all the time. How do you go about this? I want to honor and respect her now more than ever, since she is suffering and so ill, and yet I am finding it difficult when I've been thrown into this opposite role.