Mom is in her 90's, living in independent living. She has progressive dementia and is becoming more and more confused, easily upset, paranoid not to mention more frail. We now have other serious medical issues with a family member and cannot continue to do everything for her. She is negative, difficult, stubborn, and has a 2 minute memory for most things. Deep down she knows she needs help, but keeps saying if we move her she will kill herself. For her own sake because she needs more than a couple visits a week now, she cannot be isolated as much as she is. But how do we deal with this? If we tell her, she will freak out, cry, carry on, have an anxiety attack, call us 15 times etc. Should one of us just have her overnight while the other moves her and just take her right there? We just don't know how to do this! Whatever we do, she will go to pieces. We are going to ask the doctor for a tranquilizer, but will that be enough. How do we tell her in the least traumatic way?