Mom is a sweet 95 y/o WWII Vet. Husband died in 2003, she is legally blind, has pretty arthritic hands and is seemingly more and more confused as of late. I'm getting her tested for a UTI tomorrow. She lives in a 3500 sq ft two story home. Her bedroom, bathroom and laundry are all upstairs which causes us all concern. She has missteps on the stairs once in a while but has luckily been able to catch herself. I have installed wi-fi cameras so we can keep tabs when we're not with her. My partner calls her as soon as she gets up in the morning to orient her to the day, she makes and takes her lunches and dinners up to her. I help Mom with showering, laundry, hydration, incontinence issues, appointments, etc... My sister comes to hang out with Mom and pay the bills 2hrs midday twice a week and 1hr in the evening twice a week. We just hired a companion / reader 1-1/2 hrs twice a week. I'm finding that I need Mom to have additional care but she says she doesn't need it. We all love Mom dearly and want her life to be as fulfilling and safe as it can be until the end.
Any ideas or commiseration?