How do I tell my mother that she needs to go to assisted living when she is expecting that I will tell her to come live with me. I know that she thinks since I am recently retired, that I have nothing to do and living with me would be the solution she prefers over assisted living. I feel guilty and am struggling with this decision I have to make soon. I can't find the words..and maybe not the heart to tell her this. She has memory problems, delusions, hallucinations, and risk of falling..and poor judgement (irrational) but she still knows what is going on around her, can shower and dress herself. She doesn't want to be around all those "old" people.