My mother is in an ALF and I am the only one near to her that can visit. She has early dementia, bi-polar, depression/mania and has a narcissitic personality disorder. She has relied on me since my dad died in 2009. My husband wants to visit his mother in Florida who is 91 and other family members too. We plan to leave on the 26th of Dec., how do I tell her my plans? What words do I use? She will not like it but I feel she will survive. I can call her every other day if that will help. Any suggestions?