My 88 year old step mom has now been in assisted living for two months now. I have POA and am paying the bills and seeing to her needs financially. She has dementia in regards to short term memory and just some common sense issues. She is under the impression that she has loads of money (she did a few years ago). She has given away large amounts to family for Birthdays and Christmas. I need to put a stop to that or she will be completely broke in a year and a half. How do I approach her about this without making her feel stupid and out of her mind. I've tried to warn her that it is not a good idea and her excuse is that she will die soon anyway and that it does not matter. She orders me to bring the check book so that she can see me write these checks. For me to refuse (which I can because I have POA) would be extremely upsetting to her and I don't want to ruin our good relationship.