My mother is bedridden, in a nursing home and on hospice. I have chosen not to tell her when her old friends and neighbors have passed away. While she adored and was close with many of these people when she lived at her home she has no contact with them any more. It just makes her sad and miserable.
When ever someone passes away though a former neighbor seems to gleefully call and tell her the news. Even though I have asked her not to do this she does it anyway.
When my grandmother was in the same situation my mother made the decision not to tell her about deaths. She even didn't tell my grandmother about her grandson's death. This makes me think that I'm doing what mom wants.
Do you think not telling her sad things is the right thing to do? How can I convince her former neighbor not to be such a "Debbie Downer"?