My dad is 88 with moderate Alzheimer's, CHF, & bleeding on the brain. He's a very stubborn & independent man. Dad had a stroke & was unable to function, except to feed himself. We brought him into our home, where he has his own bedroom & bathroom. Fortunately, he now goes to the bathroom by himself, makes his own bed & walks with a cane. He has expressed repeatedly he wants to move out. My sister agrees he has it made here, but we understand the need to socialize with others. We take dad everywhere, out to dinner, trips to the beach, Farmer's Market & more. I've taken him to 2 senior centers & he did not want to participate. His dementia means he has forgotten we have visited 7 other places. He did not like any of them. Dad thinks I lie to him & my word has no value. My sister (visiting here, sees him 3x a year) & I took a tour yesterday of a lovely home. There are lots of activities (he likes to be on the go), excellent care & great food. Very plush with lots of light & windows to the garden. Of course he did nothing but complain & says he needs no help with anything & that he can still drive. My dad has not been able to drive for a year, my husband bathes & dresses him & I'm in charge of medication & his health. I understand how upsetting this will be for dad. I want to handle this with love & compassion. But how? What do you say? We will continue to visit, take him out & to his dr visits. Why has he turned on me?