For years me, my husband, my daughter and her family and my friends have been my moms life. No one calls, cards or anything. They turned on me over 10 years ago (I'm not sure why..didn't do anything, but sister in law from day 1 always made things up to cause trouble. My parents didn't buy into it and she hated me for it.
Well, Mom is old and although she really is healthy at 92 1/2 she could go anytime. She and i have been estranged from them. At my brothers funeral she stood there at the casket weeping and not 1 of them came up to console her. She brings this up to me all the time. I can't bring myself to do funeral planning because I'm afraid I will set in motion for her to pass. I will totally crumble when I loose her. Do I have to call and tell them all if/when something happens? I can't stand them, they used her for money until she callled me and complained to get them off her back.. I hate to even ask this quesstion, but I have been told by friends that I need to prepare myself because she can't live forever and they are afraid I will be caught off guard (I am queen of denial).
When she turned 80 I threw a big surprise party complete with Limo, nurse for stepdad, catered, just an awesome party. Video of her life. Cost me $3,300. 1 brother gave me $300.00 - the other 2 nothing. In fact 1 did not come!!
When she got there they all acted like "they" put it on and it was "their" idea. My stepdad set her straight later though.