I have had all i can take and leave my elderly mom and my adult son. She has dementia and he doesn't have a job? My son takes good care of my mom and pays his expenses. I moved back to help relieve some stress off my son because mom is a handful, she is mean, hateful, a real negative person she has always been looking like that. I thought my son would get a job if I moved back and he could away. Mom refuses a nursing home and my son agrees. Well, he has no job (been at least 7 years now) and apparently doesn't want one. I only have social security which allows me to live in a hud owned property for reasonable rent. I do not make enough to support him however I don't want him to be homeless when the day comes mom won't be paying his expenses. He knows that but apparently is on denial that day will ever come. I can't live in this environment any longer. I left my senior apartment for them. All of this has led me to see a psychiatrist who says it's time for tough love and for me to move back to the apartment. I will be disowned by all when I do which I would rather not be. My brother moved out of state years ago to get out of this mess and we haven't heard from him since and I miss him but he has removed himself from this nightmare. My father passed away 20 years ago. He, of course, knew my mom was spiteful but kept her in line and she was well when he passed. I feel I had the character and finances to do like my brother did. I am going to move out but how do I tell them?