My mother is 80 and stays in the bed most of the time, due to arthritis and and a spinal disease. She can barely walk. She has a Hoveround and a wheelchair, plus all the other things available to help when she gets up.
Mom will have a "good" week - talks about what she's doing, etc. And, then she will have a "bad" week and will complain nonstop about my dad, that she doesn't have any friends, that she doesn't go anywhere (she does get out, but not much), and that I don't understand. I am going to a counselor myself to sort through this issue, plus how to deal with a bad job, and triplets who will be 7 next month. My homelife is not easy.
Mom is like a child, sometimes, and I feel like the mother, although, if I say anything that she thinks is the wrong thing to say (even my tone of voice), when she is in these bad moods, I become the enemy because I said something she didn't like. She has had depression all her life, but nothing helps her now, she says. If I make a suggestion that I think will help her, she immediately tells me why that won't work. I don't know what to do. I just stand and listen to her cry and complain, either at her house or on the phone, when she is in one of the bad moods, and I don't say much. My dad is her main caretaker, but she is constantly telling me how mean he is. I am not there, so I don't know for sure, but I think Dad is very frustrated, as I am, and Mom is taking some things out of context. I can't tell her that she is being negative, because that sets her off, too. If I suggest watching comedies on TV, she says she has watched them, and they don't help her. I feel like Stretch Armstrong (toy from the 70's) - stretched in all directions. What do you think is going on, and what can I do to help her?