This entire week Mom's in-home, Medicare helpers have been calling me. They act as though my Mom has been "abandoned" and there is no one there to help her but them. Then the condescension starts, "did you know your Mom needs this and that?..." Of course, I think my Mom loves the attention and plays the orphan card.
Doctors are another treat. Their favorite thing to do is order tests for minor ailments. When I question the reason for the tests they get snarky. Many of these tests just wear Mom out then they never call us with the results.
And last, but not least, calling the front desk at a doctor's office to get an appointment for an immediate, minor need and being told to take Mom to the emergency room.
Mom is close to being a shut in. Her physical health is very fragile and even getting in and out of the car is painful. But when I try to explain this to these people, they act as though they've never dealt with an elderly person.
The last straw was when we went to Mom's previous PC doc. Her nurse told Mom to hike her little 5'1" body onto a high exam table, didn't want to help her (or even touch her), then left her sitting without back support for several minutes. Just inhumane or perhaps ignorant. Needless to say Mom now has a new doc who is also a gerantologist.
Anyway, I try to keep a civil tongue and pleasant tone, but the patronizing and callous way some medicos treat seniors makes me wonder what it will be like when I am older. LIke calling seniors "dear" or reffering to my Mother as "Mom" instead of using her name. It is just a nother step to losing one's identity as we age. I wish someone would create a training course on modern "bedside manner" for seniors. (I can tell right now that I will not make a very good "little old lady")
Anyone have some techniques for dealing with medical people that yield positive and less stressful results?