My dad has been told before that he needs to shower and change his clothes daily, or at least every other day. He always says he will, but then he falls back into his old habits of showering and then putting on the same clothes he's worn for several days. Recently I've become aware that my mom (83 y/o) has not bathed in years. She will "wash at the sink." That's been ok until recently. She has started to smell too. I think she changes her clothes every day but not sure how often she washes. I am 500 miles away and need guidance on how to talk to them about their hygiene. My mom's best friend says she cannot do it, I have to do it.