My Dad has problems with incontinence. When it happens he deals with it by pretending it isn't happening. I have had to tell him several times that he is not getting in my car with dirty pants. Today he said he doesn't care what other people think. He doesn't care if I am embarrassed. I've given him a lot of latitude and picked my battles. I don't say anything when he cuts lines, yells (cuz he can't hear), etc. I do not think he should go out with pee/poop on him. He otherwise seems good mentally (no memory loss). He has various medical problems and gets good medical care. This happens maybe once or twice a month but I worry all the time. He wants to go out to lunch and wants to plan trips but he refuses to acknowledge this issue. I know he can't help it and I don't want him to be housebound but what can I do?