My mother is full time caregiver for my 87 year old grandma. My mother is 62. My grandma is very stubborn and will not use a walker, and my mom literally holds her up and helps her walk all over the grocery store, and anywhere else they have to go. My mom's back is in constant pain due to having to hold up my grandma. She is in poor shape herself. My mom has become clinically depressed from years of taking care of my grandmother now and complains to me all the time how she is in pain, but my grandma "is too stubborn" and so mom doesn't even try. I keep telling my mom to put her foot down! Make her use one! But mom just lets my grandma do whatever she wants. My mothers depression and complaining (for 5 years now) is taking a toll on me!