I told him gently how things were in reality, and how he dismissed it. He eventually understood. I do keep things clean and try to help him when he says he needs it. He doesn't like it when a stranger comes and helps him. We have been there and done that. So, until he really is unable to take a shower and dress, etc. I will help him. He is able to shower, dress, shave, etc. by himself. He is not ill but sometimes is not totally aware of cleanliness. I like to think that that is sometimes just part of being a man. :D Thanks for your input.